This question dates back a while but I thought that I would take the time to answer it because in truth: What about gays? Why is it that these certain people seem to have no control about their future? In Leviticus 18:22 it says: "Do not lie with man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable." So we all know for a fact that the Bible teaches against homosexuality. Now let’s look at why homosexuality is a problem for people:
Although I have no scientific knowledge about homosexuality, we can all agree that the underlying force that makes it apparent is "love". Homosexuality is the "love" of a man for another man (or women for other women). We can also agree that "love" is not an emotion that we as humans can easily control. If you love somebody then it’s somewhat hard to force yourself not to love. Love is like any other emotion. If you’re sad then you may cry. Some people can’t refrain from crying when they’re sad. When you’re happy most of the time you can’t stop yourself from expressing that happiness, like through laughing or smiling. The difference between sadness and happiness is that we tend to try and hide our sadness and yet we freely express our happiness. Well isn’t love also considered a "positive" emotion? We, too, will also freely express express our love for someone. It’s not like we’re going to try and hide it or force it away. Love is a positive emotion.
Having said that, it means that for people who are gay, it becomes difficult for them to not show it because after all love is the underlying emotion behind homosexuality; it’s just being directed at the "wrong" people. So what can gay people do about it? If in truth being homosexual is a sin (and death results from sin), then it would appear that gay people are destined to die. That is the view of someone who questioned the future of gay people in God’s plan. And in this view it would seem that gay people are going to "go to hell" because it is difficult to control love.
How do people become gay?
I read somewhere that homosexuality is genetic. Fair enough, we always need a scientific explanation for everything in life. So for now let’s assume that homosexuality is hereditary. Now most of us high school students should have by now learned how genetics work. Two genes (one from each parent) mix together and then determine one of the characteristics of the child. Now I don’t know what the "gay" gene is but obviously at least one parent must carry it and it must mix in with another gene to make the child gay (whether recessive or dominant). So what is the chance that someone is going to turn out gay from their genes? 10%? 25%? 50%? Well the percentage doesn’t matter. All we know is that there is a chance that the child can be gay. So what constitutes chance then? Let me use an example:
You have a dice in your hand and you want to roll a certain number. Just a regular dice, no tricks. Mathematically speaking you have a 1 in 6 chance of getting that particular number. But there are other factors that influence the number you roll out:
1. Gravity – Gravity plays a roll doesn’t it. Greater gravity will make the dice fall harder and bounce on the surface harder etc. Some other physics-related principles.
2. Force – You can always roll the dice with a different force. Maybe if you roll it lighter you’ll get a higher chance of getting the number you want. Or roll it with greater force.
3. Surface – The type of surface could always determine what number you get. One that’s slippery or grips. One that has many dents in it that could affect how the dice rolls on the surface.
Well apart from those things there are other factors that influence what number comes out. You can control a few of the above but ultimately you won’t know what number is going to come out. You don’t know whether or not rolling faster or slower will increase the chance of your number coming out. Even if you control a few aspects, you can’t 100% control the outcome. There is another force at work behind what you roll out with a dice.
People call this force "luck" or "chance" and things simply "happen" because "they do". There is no explanation to why it happens. But like I said in an older blog, these factors which we can’t discern give evidence to God and so systematically it is God behind the scenes who is influencing the outcomes in things in life. But hang on why would God have time to influence what you roll with a dice? Like in a game or something? It’s not important so why would God bother making sure you roll (or not roll) a certain number?
Although God is everything and in everything, he passively controls some of the minor things in life I believe. God created gravity right? And all the other factors that affect what you roll with a dice yes? So therefore I believe He would be "passively" influencing the outcomes of minor things. So in the same way God is also influencing the genetic characteristics of people. But we have to remember that God does this directly, not passively, because creating a human being (in His image) is a lot complex than simply rolling a dice: the outcome is much more significant.
So why would God "choose" people to be gay?
There is no doubt about it. No matter what science has to say we know in the end that genetics are ultimately more influenced by God than anything else. He has the last say in what features each person has. So when God "makes" gay people, does that mean He is like giving them a death sentence? After all, since leads to death and being gay is a sin; so being gay means death? That doesn’t sound fair does it? People have no control over whether they are gay or not and then boom! God says a person is gay and they are destined to die.
When someone tells you that you are going to die, it’s not a good feeling because you know that there is nothing you can do. All you can do is simply wait till you die. That’s not fair is it? So why would God make people gay if He wants to save everyone? Isn’t He killing them before they were even born? That doesn’t sound like the God that we follow.
My first point against this claim is by asking the question: "What constitutes sin?" Isn’t sin anything that is unrighteous in God’s eyes? Isn’t being gay just ONE sinful thing? There are many other sinful things in the world that cause death, being gay is not the only thing. But yes alright being gay adds one more sinful thing on and sometimes it only takes one more to tip the balance. But in our lives we sin heaps and heaps. We sin countless times. It says in the bible (someone please help find the exact location) that if a person breaks one law (of the ten commandments) then he is convicted of breaking the other ones. No matter how big or small sin is, it is still sin in God’s eyes FULL STOP. There are no "but"s no "however"s, just simply sin.
If people are convicted of being gay then fair enough. But remember that we are in no better position. We might not be gay but we are also convicted of other sins. And who’s to say that gay people have sinned more than us non-gay people? Just because we aren’t convicted of being gay, we might be convicted of sins that gay people haven’t committed. Some gay people have never killed people before so what are they going to say to murderers? "Oh I feel sorry for that person because that guy has murdered before; I’m much cleaner than he/she is."
"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." – Romans 3:23. Regardless of what we are, gay or not, we have still sinned anyway. Neither group of people are better or worse, we are all equal.
My second point is that gay people can still change their ways. When we love others, that love can break if we get hurt enough and stuff. Most of us are probably not those stubborn people who are only ever going to love one person in our life and then just cling on to that person even if they don’t love us back; that is unheard of. Gay people too have a chance to change. Giving up sexual desires for people of the same gender may be hard but then God has his ways of dealing with them. Now I’m not saying that God WILL change gay people. I’m saying that IF God wanted to save gay people THIS WAY, then He will do it. Who can say that a gay person can’t change? It may be hereditary but it’s not like a physical condition that you can’t shake yourself of.
Homosexuality is a psychological thing; it’s like mental trauma and stuff like that. The world has rehabilitation centers for people with all sorts of psychological problems; aka nut houses. Gays CAN be rehabilitated to be straight, and usually it helps IF the gay person wants to be straight. The biggest help in ANY change is being committed to it. This is just like conversion. People become Christians because they WANT to believe.
My third point is that homosexuality is just another form of sickness. What about other hereditary diseases? What about other psychological traumas? There are diseases that give people a hard time in life. I myself have a VSD (Ventricular "Something" Defect). This is essentially a hole in the heart which allows blood being pumped out of the heart back into the chamber bringing the de-oxygenated blood. This means that my heart has to pump extra blood in order to bring enough to the rest of my body because some of it backflows. Now you tell me what I’m meant to do with that? In my early stages as a child, I had serious asthma and stuff and I was really sick as a little boy. I couldn’t do many physical activities due to my heart condition and even up to now doctors say my hole will never close up.
Luckily for me, and praise to the Lord, my hole has closed up over the years and at this stage it’s small enough to not have any major impact on me. I can do any physical activities that everyone does. I’m pretty sure I don’t have asthmatic attacks anymore. Haven’t had one for 10+ years I think. But perhaps no-one understands the seriousness of my problem. I could’ve died at a young age had my hole gotten larger. Now you tell me if that is fair or not? Having to die at a young age and not being able to control it? My situation shows that God can change bad things back to good if He wants to; and He did for me. He can also do the same things for gay people.
But alright mine is a physical sickness, and as I said before being gay is psychological. Well there are people who start off fine and then pick up psychological sicknesses over time. It can happen both ways: start sick and end healthy, or start healthy and end up sick. But the thing is that there are people who become traumatized against God that they simply stop believing and then go against God. I have heard of people who started off Christians but then because of some incident, they were psychologically changed and then they rejected God. At the rate they are going, they will probably die rejecting God. Now is that fair? So start on the right path but then at the end die a rebel? They can say: "Hey God I started of good but then stuff happened and I ended up bad." But isn’t God just going to go: "Nope, sorry. In the end you disobeyed me."
There are clearly worse situations than being gay and just because people are gay it doesn’t mean that they are already lost. There is always a way to redeem people to God, regardless of the situation. So people who are gay are not in the worse position in front of God; we all stand at the same level. Being gay isn’t the worst sickness, they are many others that yield a much worse result. Gay people CAN be saved, there are many ways that it can happen, plus many more from God. So don’t ever go: "What about gays?" because in truth:
What about them?